I read something this evening that took me back to a place in my journey that was critical. There were more than one of these moments during the four years it took to lose 120 pounds.
What I am referring to is fear, fear that you can not finish what you started. Fear that you will never be able to reach the goal. Fear that you will not be able to maintain pace and that you will gain the weight back. Almost as if some “alien force” outside of our control is making such decisions. Each time I experienced these moments they were inevitably during a phase of either, a lack of motivation, a plateau or a slight back slide.
Progress is never linear. There will always be bumps in the road and they can be substantial. Interestingly, these are the exact moments when people choose to either hold strong or fold and give up on themselves. These moments are likely the most critical of times and the single determining factor of your ultimate success. If you stop quitting, you will eventually get there.
Here is what I have uncovered, fear is nothing more than a function of the feelings you have about your ability to control yourself, your own choices and environment. When you begin to doubt yourself you create an environment ripe for failure. Believing that you can is 99% of the battle. If you are feeling out of control or backsliding, CHANGE it, more importantly, change your mind! It is within your power. You are not a victim of your circumstance.
Not surprisingly, after a few days of being back on target those fears will diminish. You take one step at a time until finally, you have come so far that you truly know and believe without question, that you are never going back there. If you work hard enough and long enough to truly change your life this moment is nothing more than eventual! Never ever redeem your power.